“I wasn’t there during the last delicate moments of his life” – daughter of father who died during COVID-19
From the maternity halls to the cemeteries, the pandemic restrictions are creating emotions even during these rare occasions. A few weeks ago, Maria Falkowski lost her father Alberto.
Heartbroken, she said that the elderly man’s relatives were not present during his last seven weeks of life due to the pandemic circumstances.
“At his last delicate moments of life I wasn’t there…you feel it is an inconclusive chapter, as no person and I wish. When you are close to persons, you need to hold their hands all the time, tell them that you love them…that they feel they are not alone”.
Maria added that her father’s dementia condition made it more difficult for him to understand why relatives did not resume with their visits. “While someone used to visit him daily, all of a sudden no one visited him…this is cruel”.
She said that the pandemic did not assist also in his last farewell because the burial was made with a priest’s prayer and without the normal Mass, while only five persons could attend the burial due to current measures.
Psychotherapist Xanthe’ Schembri said that these cases are leaving an emptiness in relatives which may result in psychological effects.
“The fact that you cannot share those emotions at a funeral…it seems that sensitivity, emotions, crying and hugging have turned into an individual moment and social distancing bring along more suffering”.
The psychotherapist stated that although this is a difficult moment for relatives, a person has to find the courage to adapt to difficult situations and the deceased is commemorated when these circumstances end.